Halloween Relationship Quiz: How Well Do You Know Your Partner?

Halloween Relationship Quiz: How Well Do You Know Your Partner?

This Halloween relationship quiz has 28 questions in four rounds: Halloween favourites, our history, spooky would-you-rather and predict-their-answer. You each write answers in secret, swap, and score up to 39 points, with the person being guessed about as judge.

Playing apart works over video or phone; 48.3% of shared SubhSandesh pages are opened on a phone (27,725 of 57,456 views). If answers get personal, lock any page you make from them, as 38.5% of SubhSandesh creators do before sharing.

Halloween is Saturday 31 October 2026 and Sunday 31 October 2027. Below: rules, questions, scoring, the research on high scores, a long-distance version and when to skip it.

What is a Halloween relationship quiz?

A Halloween relationship quiz is a "how well do you know your partner" game played around 31 October, with questions about Halloween tastes, shared memories and predictions. Each partner answers about themselves, guesses the other's answers, and matches score points.

TV made the format famous with The Newlywed Game in 1966. John Gottman calls this knowledge a "love map" in The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work (1999, with Nan Silver). A 2024 review of couple-education programmes in Family Process lists that course at 12 lessons and cites Doherty's 2013 case for "rituals of connection",, which a yearly quiz can become.

How to play: secret answers, then the reveal

You need two pens, two sheets numbered 1 to 28 and about 45 minutes, our estimate for an unhurried game.

1. Answer for yourself. On the left of your sheet, write your own true answer to all 28, then fold that column over.
2. Guess your partner. On the right, write what you think they wrote.
3. Bet on yourself. Before each round, write how many you expect to get right.
4. Reveal one at a time. Read your guess, then your partner reads the truth and rules on near-misses.
5. Talk about the misses. A wrong answer is the interesting part; give each one a minute.

The 28 questions in four rounds

1. Round one: Halloween favourites

Tests tastes. Worth 1 point each, 7 in total, about 8 minutes.

• Which fun-size sweet would your partner dig out of the bowl before anyone else could reach it?
• Which do they find creepier: a ventriloquist's dummy, a porcelain doll or a clown on a bicycle?
• Which spooky film could they rewatch every October without a single complaint?
• Pumpkin spice: love it, hate it, or "only for the first week of October"?
• Which Halloween decoration would they put up first, and which would they quietly veto?
• Which classic monster would they say they most resemble: vampire, werewolf, mummy, ghost or witch?
• Would they rather spend 31 October at a busy costume party, on the sofa with a film, or manning the front door with the sweet bowl?

2. Round two: our history together

Tests shared memory. Worth 1 point each, 7 in total, about 12 minutes because answers start stories.

• What did we wear, or nearly wear, on our first Halloween together?
• Where were we on 31 October last year, and what did we eat that night?
• During the scariest thing we have watched or done together, who flinched first?
• What was the first autumn snack or drink we ever shared?
• Which picture of us would your partner call our most haunted-looking, blur and red eyes included?
• How many Halloweens have we now spent together, counting this one?
• Which outfit of mine has your partner never let me forget, Halloween or not?

3. Round three: spooky would-you-rather

Tests choices: guess which option they pick. Worth 1 point each, 7 in total, about 6 minutes.

• Would they rather stay in a hotel room where the television switches itself on, or one where the phone rings at 3 a.m. with nobody on the line?
• Would they rather be followed for a week by a black cat or by a raven that repeats one word?
• Would they rather find a toothbrush or a box of raisins in every trick-or-treat bag?
• Would they rather eat a whole bowl of candy corn or one bite of a ghost pepper?
• Would they rather be the first to go in a horror film or the survivor who has to keep living in the house?
• Would they rather wear a foam pumpkin suit to work for a day, or green face paint that won't wash off for three days?
• Would they rather walk through a haunted attraction holding your hand, or wait for you outside with a hot drink?

4. Round four: predict their answer

Tests prediction. Worth 2 points each, 14 in total, about 10 minutes. On number questions, within 2 counts.

• A trick-or-treater says "trick" and clearly means it. What does your partner do next?
• The power cuts out halfway through a horror film on Halloween night. What do they say first?
• You turn up in a couples costume they never agreed to. How long until they laugh: five seconds, five minutes or never?
• How many sweets will they eat from the doorstep bowl before the first knock?
• Out of 10, how would they rate Halloween as a holiday?
• If a real ghost moved into your home, would they befriend it, evict it or start charging it rent?
• What one word would they use for you both as a Halloween couple?

Tiebreaker: name the sweet they save until last.

How to score it, and what your score means

Rounds one to three give 21 points and round four gives 14. The confidence bet adds 1 point per round where your prediction landed within 1 of your real score, so 39 in all. Minutes below are our playtime estimates.

Round four pays double because predicting a reaction is harder than recalling a fact. The bands are for fun:

• 33–39, Two Ghosts, One Sheet: you read each other closely; next year, write the questions for each other.
• 25–32, Matching Jack-o'-Lanterns: well in sync, with a few misses worth a conversation.
• 16–24, Friendly Haunting: you know the big things and are still finding the small ones.
• 0–15, Strangers in the Fog: you are new, or someone has changed lately; replay round two on 1 November.

Does a high score mean a better relationship?

Not on its own. In a 1997 Journal of Personality and Social Psychology paper, Swann and Gill found that relationship length raised dating partners' confidence about each other but did not consistently raise their accuracy about things like activity preferences. That gap is why this quiz scores the confidence bet (we read the abstract only).

Accuracy is not everything either. A 2025 Nature Communications paper by Genzer and colleagues, seven studies with 2,866 people, found people rate others' emotions as more intense than those people rate themselves. In a 21-day diary study of 100 couples, moderately overestimating a partner's negative feelings went with that partner reporting higher satisfaction.

Your mindset counts. In a Ghent lab study of 172 couples, together 11.4 years on average, Berlamont and colleagues (Motivation and Emotion, 2022) found that wanting the relationship to go well predicted more accurate reads of a partner's thoughts and feelings. Play as a team trying to learn, not a contestant trying to win.

How to play over video when you are apart on 31 October

Use the same 28 questions, but fill in both columns before the call, on paper or in a private note. Then reveal on camera together, sheets up on "three, two, one".

Watch the clocks. On 31 October in both 2026 and 2027, New York is 4 hours behind London, not the usual 5, because the UK has left summer time and the US has not. At 8 p.m. in London it is 1:30 a.m. on 1 November in Delhi and 7 a.m. in Sydney; couples split that way can play on the Western evening of 30 October.

Turn the result into a Halloween page

The quiz hands you their favourite sweet, your first Halloween and a band name, which is everything a greeting needs. The interactive Halloween card with photos and music takes about 5 minutes, holds up to six photos and a letter, and carves a word you choose into a pumpkin. It ends on one question, "Will you be my boo?" by default and editable up to 60 characters, and emails you the first time they answer.

For a long-distance partner, the premium Halloween page with a voice note and reply box takes about 10 minutes and adds a voice note of up to 60 seconds (enough to read out the scores), up to 12 photos, an optional unlock time and one emailed reply of up to 280 characters. Each SubhSandesh page averages 11.1 views, so details get reread.

For questions without the Halloween theme, the Court of Love page puts a partner on trial with 10 funny questions and a penguin judge. None of these pages scores your quiz; the paper sheets do that.

When a relationship quiz is the wrong move

Skip it in the first few weeks of dating, when round two has no history to draw on, and right after an argument, when a knowledge test reads as an exam. If one of you hates being tested, drop the scoring and just compare answers.

SubhSandesh is the wrong tool for a group game. Both Halloween pages are for one person, in English, and store no quiz scores, so a party of eight couples needs paper and a host. Pages open on a phone 48.3% of the time; a partner who loves handwriting should get the score sheet folded inside a card.

Sources

• Swann WB, Gill MJ. Confidence and accuracy in person perception. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, October 1997 (abstract only).
• Genzer S et al. Directional bias in interpersonal emotion perception. Nature Communications, 11 December 2025.
• Berlamont L et al. Motivation and empathic accuracy during conflict interactions in couples. Motivation and Emotion, online 9 November 2022.
• Griffes SE et al. Couple relationship education content. Family Process, 30 July 2024.